We need a little Jesus and a little Jocko.

Get the work done.

This picture below has been me for the last month. NOT GOOD. I've withdrawn from social media, put on a lot of fake smiles, and there has been a construction team of meth heads with dad issues loudly chipping away at my brain. 

While I want to make this a post about how fucking rad my cat is I'll try to make it something useful. 

Whenever people try to be shitty to me online I want to tell them, "Listen, fella, I promise whatever you are saying to me is nowhere near as bad as what I am saying to me." And then I want to say, "Now come to my gym and fight me, you little coward." But alas. 

Alex and I have a new mental health comedy podcast coming out next month and BOY is there a lot to talk about. We went from a dream life to losing almost everything in a day. 

I talk about emotions a lot but what really helped me was, "Get the work done." 

There is a balance for mental health that does not get talked about enough. You need a little Jesus and a little Jocko. Grace and Grit. 

Some people take self-care and turn it into laziness. 

"Things were really hard for me when I was 5 so I deserve a 2nd bath, 3rd bottle of wine, and 5th complete mental breakdown as a 42-year-old freelance blogger."

Been there.

Some people take "get after it" and turn it into the ramblings of an insane person.

"So you broke your leg mid-run to get to your pregnant wife who's going into labor after your car blew up on the highway but you AREN'T GONNA COLD PLUNGE? DON'T BE WEAK! STAY HARD!"

That attitude will either turn into burnout or an eventual hostage situation. 

What is not popular on the internet is balance. That is why I'm alive. You can be nice to yourself, and hustle. You can take recovery time and also go to the gym. You can go to therapy and into nature alone. You can be vulnerable about your emotions and also not live tweet every time you are sad. 

You can be nice to yourself and still get the work done. There are different ways to do this that we will talk about but for now, if you are in the shit, you can go slow, you can treat yourself, but I promise you will feel so much better if you also get after it. Be gentle, but also be dope, just like my rad fucking cat.